There’s a general cycle of things on the internet these days.
It tends to go like this:
- thing goes viral as an example of ‘the best thing on the internet today’
- folks share it under that principle
- someone points out that ‘wait, actually is it that good?’ and it fails to hold up to even the slightest scrutiny
- the backlash and the jokes begin
- people find bad things that the person responsible for ‘the best thing on the internet today’ did in the past
- said person is worse off than before the original post
This week’s subject is Robbie Tripp, a TEDx speaker (yeah we know) who posted the following tribute to his wife Sarah.
|| I love this woman and her curvy body. As a teenager, I was often teased by my friends for my attraction to girls on the thicker side, ones who were shorter and curvier, girls that the average (basic) bro might refer to as "chubby" or even "fat." Then, as I became a man and started to educate myself on issues such as feminism and how the media marginalizes women by portraying a very narrow and very specific standard of beauty (thin, tall, lean) I realized how many men have bought into that lie. For me, there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc. Her shape and size won't be the one featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan but it's the one featured in my life and in my heart. There's nothing sexier to me than a woman who is both curvy and confident; this gorgeous girl I married fills out every inch of her jeans and is still the most beautiful one in the room. Guys, rethink what society has told you that you should desire. A real woman is not a porn star or a bikini mannequin or a movie character. She's real. She has beautiful stretch marks on her hips and cute little dimples on her booty. Girls, don't ever fool yourself by thinking you have to fit a certain mold to be loved and appreciated. There is a guy out there who is going to celebrate you for exactly who you are, someone who will love you like I love my Sarah. || photo cred: @kaileehjudd
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To begin with, we saw headlines like this:
But then it dawned on people: hang on, is this guy just patting himself on the back for finding his wife attractive? Is the bar really that low?
Some wondered aloud how Mrs Tripp might feel about being the passive object of the Instagram post, and how they might feel if their own partner tried something similar.
That Robbie Tripp post gives me hope that one day, I too will find a man who fetishizes my weight to make himself feel like a hero. #sobrave— Marisa Carpico (@MarisaCarpico) August 4, 2017
The copycat posts began.
And before long, the phrase ‘curvy wife’ (or ‘thicc wife’) became a meme in and of itself.
under socialism we will each be apportioned a curvy wife— Brandy Jensen (@BrandyLJensen) August 4, 2017
[bon jovi voice]— illy bocean (@IllyBocean) August 6, 2017
it's now or never
i ain't gonna live forever
i gotta show the world while i'm alive:
my thicc wife
I FEAR MY CURVY WIFE— Jennifer Morrow (@jenniferemorrow) August 5, 2017
by H.P. Lovecraft
I shudder to think of her non-Euclidean geometry, an eldritch shape no earthly eye can comprehend...
Oh, and if you’re wondering how long the Tripps took to get from ‘inspirational’ to ‘problematic’, here’s your answer.
Go on & tell us where we should send your trophy for loving your "curvy" wife & for being racist & homophobic? 🤔🙄 pic.twitter.com/XCA88TyPWu— Tess Holliday 🥀 (@Tess_Holliday) August 5, 2017
Some will say nothing good has come of this episode, but that’s not entirely true. One day, the parable of the curvy wife will be taught in history classes about the decline of the west.
Remember this episode, so you can talk about it to your children, and your children’s children, and say “I was there”.
(Main image: Instagram/Robbie Tripp)