If you use dating apps like Tinder, there can be a lot of pressure on the first message.
Sure, you might have matched with someone, but those first sparks will be extinguished right away if you say something inappropriate, something stupid, or just nothing at all.
While some guys relish this kind of pressure and responsibility of taking the lead, it’s not for everyone.
You might have turned to another app like Bumble, whose selling point is its ‘ladies first’ approach to messaging.
Mandy Ginsberg, chief executive of Tinder’s parent company Match Group, told MarketWatch the app is planning on letting women choose which men they’re happy to receive messages from.
It’s essentially a step up from throwing a virtual drink in the face of a man giving one of his matches unwanted attention, but it’s a big step up.
It won’t quite be as simple as changing the set-up to give women the first move, though.
Instead, the new feature will give women a chance to opt in to a set-up where they’re the ones sending the first message, rather than forcing them into a simple mimic of the Bumble set-up.
Tinder are yet to announce when the new measures will be rolled out, but it looks like the changes are already in the pipeline.
For now, though, all Tinder users of any gender will have the opportunity to send the first message after matching with someone.
For the time being, it might be worth making some tweaks to improve your dating profile, in the hope that your matches will lead to messages.
Don’t say you weren’t warned.